When we are struggling with anxiety, depression, or feeling overwhelmed, we often start to view our own minds as the enemy. We get tangled up in our thoughts, believing everything our brain tells us.
ACT helps by fundamentally changing your relationship with your mind. It teaches you how to take a step back and simply notice what you are thinking, rather than getting swept away by it.
Instead of thinking, “I’m a failure,” you learn to observe, “I am noticing that my brain is giving me the thought that I am a failure.” It sounds like a small shift, but it gives you vital breathing room. It transforms you from a prisoner of your thoughts into an observer of them, empowering you to choose how you want to respond.
Personalized therapy begins with understanding your unique experiences and goals. Through tailored sessions, we use techniques to address your challenges, foster growth.
The process begins with an in-depth conversation to understand what you have tried, whats been helpful and what hasnt. I learn about who you are, what is important to you, and what you want to get out of therapy.
The process involves finding the unique approach that works for you and your values. We will explore your past and present. Explore why you are the way you are and figure out what really matters to you. We will try lots of things, keep what works, and throw away what doesn't.
This is where we will work together to examine what has and has not been working for you. I check in often to see if what we are doing is working and if you are getting what you want out of therapy. We will have conversations and adapt our approach based on how things are going.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a very popular approach that focuses on catching “cognitive distortions” (thinking errors) and trying to restructure them into more rational thoughts. If you have an anxious thought, CBT teaches you to challenge the evidence for that thought. While this works beautifully for some people, for others, arguing with your own brain is exhausting and can sometimes make the anxiety feel louder.
ACT takes a completely different route. Instead of trying to change the content of your thoughts, ACT changes how you react to them. If CBT is putting on boxing gloves to fight your anxiety, ACT is opening the door, letting the anxiety sit in the corner of the room, and going back to doing what you care about. By reducing the friction and ending the battle with our minds, we free up our energy to actually live.
Therapy is a deeply personal journey, and while no therapist can ever guarantee a specific outcome, I can tell you that ACT has been instrumental in helping both myself and countless clients.
If you are struggling, ACT can be incredibly powerful for addressing specific challenges:
Not at all. This is the most common misconception about ACT. Acceptance doesn't mean resignation or defeat. It simply means dropping the exhausting struggle against the things you cannot control (like the fact that anxiety exists). By accepting that certain thoughts and feelings will show up, you free up all that wasted energy to focus on actively changing the things you can control like your actions and choices.
The main goal of ACT isn't to magically delete your anxiety or sadness, because trying to force those feelings away usually makes them stronger. Instead, we try to change your relationship with those feelings so they no longer dictate your life. Interestinly, once you stop trying to force the anxiety away, it often naturally becomes much quieter and less frequent.
Neither is inherently "better" than the other; they are just different tools for different folks. CBT is an excellent, evidence-based modality that works wonders for many people. However, if you are someone who tends to overthink, over-analyze, or feels exhausted by constantly trying to "logic" your way out of anxiety, you might find ACT's approach of stepping back and dropping the rope to be a much better fit.
I prefer to call it "practice" rather than homework, but yes! Therapy is only one hour a week. The real growth happens in the other 167 hours. I will often invite you to practice small, manageable skills between sessions—like noticing a specific thought without arguing with it, or taking one tiny action aligned with your values.
If you feel like you are at war with your own brain, if you are tired of trying to push away negative thoughts only to have them bounce back stronger, or if you feel disconnected from the life you actually want to be living, ACT could be a wonderful fit. I offer free consultations exactly for this reason, so we can chat, see how the approach feels, and decide together if it aligns with your goals.
Because ACT is a highly active, skill-based therapy, many clients start noticing a shift in how they relate to their thoughts within the first few sessions. The timeline for therapy is always unique to the individual, but ACT focuses on giving you practical tools you can start using in your daily life immediately.
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