When you are feeling overwhelmed, your brain often relies on mental shortcuts called “cognitive distortions”. These are things like assuming the worst-case scenario, thinking you know what others are thinking about you, or falling into an all-or-nothing thinking trap. These thinking errors act like a funhouse mirror, distorting reality and making your problems feel insurmountable.
CBT helps by teaching you how to become an active investigator of your own mind. Instead of taking every anxious thought as a literal fact, you learn to step back and look for the evidence. This process fundamentally shifts how you handle stress through a few core mechanisms:
Personalized therapy begins with understanding your unique experiences and goals. Through tailored sessions, we use techniques to address your challenges, foster growth.
The process begins with an in-depth conversation to understand what you have tried, whats been helpful and what hasnt. I learn about who you are, what is important to you, and what you want to get out of therapy.
The process involves finding the unique approach that works for you and your values. We will explore your past and present. Explore why you are the way you are and figure out what really matters to you. We will try lots of things, keep what works, and throw away what doesn't.
This is where we will work together to examine what has and has not been working for you. I check in often to see if what we are doing is working and if you are getting what you want out of therapy. We will have conversations and adapt our approach based on how things are going.
While both are highly effective, evidence-based therapies, they take different roads to get to the same destination.
CBT is highly active and analytical. It asks you to put your thoughts on trial. If you have the thought, “I am going to fail this presentation,” CBT asks you to look at the evidence for and against that thought, ultimately helping you restructure it into, “I am prepared, and even if I stumble, I can handle it.” It is about changing the content of your thoughts.
ACT, on the other hand, is about changing your relationship to your thoughts. Instead of arguing with the fear of failing, ACT teaches you to simply notice the thought, let it sit in the passenger seat, and drive the car toward your goals anyway. Neither approach is “better” than the other. If you are someone who thrives on logic, evidence, and actively dismantling your inner critic, CBT is often a perfect fit.
Therapy is a deeply personal process, but CBT is widely considered the “gold standard” for a variety of challenges because of how adaptable and practial it is.
If you are feeling stuck, CBT can be incredibly powerful for addressing specific struggles:
Not at all! This is a very common misconception. CBT isn't about slapping a happy sticker on a real problem or ignoring difficult realities. Instead of "positive" thinking, CBT is about accurate and balanced thinking. It is about looking at the full picture rather than just the negative details your anxiety is hyper-focused on.
That is completely okay, and it's why the "B" in CBT stands for Behavioral! Sometimes our thoughts are too sticky or loud to restructure right away. When that happens, we focus on changing our behaviors first. Often, when you change what you do, your thoughts and feelings naturally begin to shift and follow suit.
You don't need to know the answer to this before you start! During our early sessions, I will get a feel for how your brain works and what you respond best to. We might try challenging a thought (CBT) and see if that brings you relief, or we might try simply noticing and accepting the thought (ACT). I blend these modalities to fit exactly what you need.
If you feel overwhelmed by your own inner critic, if your anxiety feels like a constant alarm bell, or if you feel trapped by negative thinking patterns, CBT can provide the structured relief you are looking for. I offer free consultations precisely so we can discuss your specific struggles and decide together if this approach aligns with your goals.
If you feel like you are at war with your own brain, if you are tired of trying to push away negative thoughts only to have them bounce back stronger, or if you feel disconnected from the life you actually want to be living, ACT could be a wonderful fit. I offer free consultations exactly for this reason, so we can chat, see how the approach feels, and decide together if it aligns with your goals.
If we are treating anxiety, a part of CBT involves "exposure"—which means gently facing the things you fear. However, you are always in the driver's seat. We will never do anything you aren't ready for. We build a ladder together, starting with the very easiest, least scary steps, and slowly work our way up at your exact pace.
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