Most people do not know how exhausting, overwhelming, and terrifying it can be to face a chronic health diagnosis. As someone who faced chronic pain daily and has multiple chronic health conditions, I understand how hopeless and isolating it can be to live with everything that comes with health challenges. But there is hope, and you are not alone. I am committed to supporting and working alongside you and will listen, empathize, and guide you towards the process of healing.
When you’re living with a chronic illness, whether it be old or new, just the idea of seeking help can seem stressful. You already have enough to worry about without the added stress of finding the right therapist, booking appointments, getting there on time, and doing homework in between sessions. People tell you maybe you should talk to someone and that they don’t know what to tell you to make you feel better.
Most people don’t realize how many things in your life change when you get a new diagnosis. It gets harder to go out with friends, care for yourself, perform daily functioning, work, go to school, and do the things that used to give your life meaning. Everything becomes so much more work and becomes exchausting.
People start to look at you differently. They might stop inviting you out or checking in, or they start pitying you and act more carefully around you. Then your mind piles on too. Telling you that you are just a buzzkill, or that no one wants you around anymore, or that you are too much.
But that is not true. You are not too hard to deal with. You are just dealing with something incredibly difficult and need some accommodations to help you get back to your life.
Symptoms can manifest in different ways, and the symptoms can vary from person to person.
Chronic Illness can have a significant impact on virtually every area of someone’s life, including their work, social life, self-esteem, relationships, autonomy, and more. Individuals who face this challenge require unique support from someone who understands what it is like to have their body or mind turn on them. As someone who has faced multiple chronic illnesses and lives with chronic pain, I understand the unique challenges you face.
Symptoms can manifest in different ways, and the symptoms can vary from person to person.
Personalized therapy begins with understanding your unique experiences and goals. Through tailored sessions, we use techniques to address your challenges, foster growth.
The process begins with an in-depth conversation to understand your health challenges, goals, and personal history. This helps us create a clear roadmap for your therapy journey.
The process involves finding the unique approach that works for you. We will explore what has and has not worked for you in the past, and meet you where you are at right now.
This is where we will work together to examine what has and has not been working for you. We will have conversations and adapt our approach based on how well or not things are going. I will ask you for feedback often and explore how we can better meet your therapeutic needs.
Stress around your health can be very distressing and overwhelming, but there are some techniques that can help to reduce the intensity and duration of these overwhelming periods. Here are some tips that may help:
Deep breathing: Taking slow, deep breaths can help to calm the body and reduce feelings of anxiety. Try to breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, and then breathe out for 8 seconds.
Grounding techniques: Focus on your surroundings and try to describe what you see, hear, smell, and touch. This can help to bring you back to the present moment and reduce feelings of dissociation.
Progressive muscle relaxation: Tense and then relax each muscle group in your body, starting from your toes and working your way up to your head. This can help to release physical tension and reduce feelings of anxiety.
Mindfulness: Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Try to observe them as if you are an outsider looking in. This can help you to feel more in control and reduce the intensity of the anxiety.
Talking to someone: Reach out to a friend, family member, or mental health professional who can provide support and help you to work through the anxiety attack.
Social Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or support groups. Make an effort to engage in social activities, even if it feels challenging at times.
Remember that everyone’s experience with Chronic health conditions is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. If you find that you’re struggling to manage your stress, it’s important to seek professional help from a mental health provider.
Therapy provides a safe, supportive space to explore your thoughts and feelings, overcome challenges, and achieve personal growth. It will help you to…
Absolutely not. This is a massive fear for many chronic illness warriors, usually because they have experienced medical gaslighting in the past. Your physical pain and your symptoms are entirely real and valid. My job is not to question your physical reality, but to help you manage the emotional weight that comes with it.
Therapy is not a magic cure for physical illness. However, pain and stress are deeply linked in the nervous system. When we are highly anxious or depressed about our condition, our muscles tense and our nervous system goes into overdrive, which can actually increase physical pain. By reducing your emotional stress and anxiety, clients often notice that the intensity of their physical flare-ups becomes more manageable.
This is the beauty of virtual therapy! You do not need to "dress up" or commute. If you are having a flare-up, you are more than welcome to do your session from your bed, with a heating pad, or with your camera turned off. We will always adapt our sessions to meet your energy levels for that specific day.
Never. "Toxic positivity" (the idea that you just need to smile and look on the bright side) is deeply harmful, especially when you are chronically ill. Some days are just going to be terrible, and you are allowed to say that out loud. We focus on acceptance and resilience, not forced happiness.
No, you do not. Many people spend years in medical limbo, undergoing tests without getting clear answers. The stress of being undiagnosed and having unexplained symptoms is a trauma in itself. Your experience is valid, and you deserve support whether you have a formal diagnosis or not.
Finding a therapist who "gets it" is crucial, especially when you are trusting them with your health journey. I offer a free, brief virtual consultation specifically so you can ask questions, get a feel for my approach, and decide if my style feels like a safe, supportive match for you before committing to a full session.